Author: Jesse Wilson

“We were somewhere on the edge of Barstow…” I’m consulting on a 3 week trial and I can feel the spirit of Hunter S. Thompson’s book “Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas” everywhere here in Sin City. But, thank God, now that I’m in my forties, I can do The Hunter Thing without trying to live up to scenes from the movie “The Hangover,” while still enjoying a healthy sense of adventure.

I remember going to see U2 perform in Philadelphia for the first time almost 20 years ago. It was back in the day when I was waiting tables at Morton’s of Chicago. I still remember that concert as if it were yesterday - Bono, backed up by The Edge, rising up to the stage as they jammed “Where The Streets Have No Name.”

You’re standing in front of the jury. Are you attempting to communicate to your client’s story to the audience?  Are you mentally and emotionally present in the room you’re describing to your audience? Do you believe you’ve connected to the anxiety caused by your client’s sleepless nights? Are you capable of taking your audience into the grief of a father when he says goodbye to his little girl for the last time? Do you know exactly what that hospital room he is sitting in looks like, smells

“Look for the contradictions in every character, especially in your heroes and villains. No one should be what they first seem to be. Surprise the audience.” --Elia Kazan, “Kazan on Directing” Here’s another quote that I love. Walt Whitman, the great poet of “Leaves of Grass” wrote, “Do I contradict myself?

Discover the real story jurors need to hear OBSTACLE: Judging your client’s pain as an impenetrable wall that prevents you from going the distance into discovering their hidden story. OPPORTUNITY: Discovering the real story jurors need to hear. There’s always something going on behind the mask of pain that allows you to tap into a deeper sense of truth where real humor and living levity also thrive.

SETTING: The home of Ms. Frances Quinn, -- aka “Ms Frances,” a dedicated mid-forties after-school enrichment teacher. MS. F’S OBSTACLE: Lifelong depression and chronic pain, both emotional and physical -- aka Playing the Victim. MS. F’S OPPORTUNITY: Finding her self-identity, and ultimate strength -- aka Empowering herself as the Protector and Victor. Frances directs me to sit in a chair next to her.

How do you use the stories of your own experience to bring your client’s stories to life? A powerful question to ask yourself is, “Where is their story in me?” Making the Personal Connection allows you to reach deep within yourself to call upon emotional intelligence that connects you directly to the story, so you can then convey that story to another. In first person, a recent client makes a connection from his past to reach an emotional state that would be very difficult to find if he were searching